“The way we were treated as small children is the way we treat ourselves the rest of our lives, and we often impose our most agonising suffering upon ourselves.” — Alice Miller (1987, p.133)

The Therapeutic Relationship as a Secure Base I’ve been thinking about how easily I can get caught up in trying to find the right intervention. The right thing to say, the right question, the right bit of theory that will help the client move from where they are. And of course, interventions matter. I’m not…

Not the letters after our name, or the modality we put on a directory profile because we have to choose something from a drop-down box. I mean the deeper question of what actually shapes the way we sit with clients. What is the lens we look through? What helps us make sense of what is…

(Why Going Slowly Is Often the Most Powerful Intervention) There’s a quiet pressure many counsellors feel – even if they don’t name it. That therapy should go somewhere.That something should happen.That emotional release equals progress. And when clients carry trauma, there can be an added, unspoken belief:If we don’t access the pain fully, are we…